How to Get a Break as a Stay at Home Mom
How to Get a Break as a Stay at Home Mom
Feeling like you need to get a break as a stay at home mom?
How often do us stay at home moms feel like we just need a break? I know when I first had my baby I felt like I shouldn’t be thinking about getting alone time already…
The truth is though, you need it!
Everybody and their mother (no pun intended) needs a damn break! So don’t feel bad and embrace when you are able to have a mom break from the babies.
Today we are going to talk about why you need a break, how often you should take a break, what your partner can do to help you get a break, and how to get a break as a stay at home mom…
So are you ready? This is going to completely change your stay at home mom life!
Don’t ignore these signs you need a break
Every mom goes through it and if you haven’t yet, you will. You forget to take the dog out for a walk all day, you put the remote control in the fridge…
Here are some surefire signs you really need a mom break:
- You can’t remember the last time you went shopping for yourself.
- You still have the last holidays decorations up.
- You clean daily but your house still a mess somehow.
- You can’t find matching socks for the life of you.
- You can’t remember where you park your car, ever.
- You don’t remember the last time you and your partner had a date night.
- When is the last time you went to the bathroom alone?
- You can’t remember when you had 10 solid minutes of pure focus while your working on something.
- Reading a book is literally out of the question, really… whats the point?
- You think about faking an illness so your partner can stay home and help.
- You count down the minutes until bedtime.
- Actually, you decide to have bedtime earlier than normal.
- Anytime you hear the word mommy, your life flashes before your eyes…
Well if you can relate to any of these points, then mama, you need to keep reading because you desperately need a break! (comment down below any other signs you have noticed that made you feel you need a break!)
How often should you get a break?
Honestly, this really depends on your situation. I try to shoot for once a week. That might be something impossible for your family dynamic but it works well for us.
I have some close neighbors whom I have known for a long time and visit regularly every weekend, just me. No kids.
It works out well because my partner is at work Monday – Friday 9-5, and he can catch up with our son, and I can have a well-needed mom break.
My suggestion would be to talk to your partner about setting aside some time for you to get away every week.
Bring up key points like:
- “I need a break” (obvi)
- “You can have some father and son time!”
- “They miss you when your at work, you should spend some quality time with them.”
- “I need to have some me time to refocus, why don’t you catch up with the kids while I catch up with a friend/family member?”
If you feel like you can go longer than biweekly seems ideal as well. Either way, don’t go too long! You need that time to refocus and recharge mama, don’t sell yourself short on your sanity, we all need it!
If you are a single mom, talk to a family member or someone close to set up a regular babysitting arrangement.
Why you need a break
I also want to go over the reasons why you need a break. These points can be brought up while you are trying to convince or inform your partner and or family member as well. 🙂
You need to fill your cup up first
If you do not take care of yourself first, then you have no energy or motivation to take care of anyone else. Not just your kids, but your partner too. This is a major key mama, so take care of yourself first. enough said there…
Your not getting enough sleep
Sleep is so important and if you are not getting enough, maybe you just might need a break to where someone leaves you to catch up on some much-needed sleep! Lack of sleep can cause serious health issues in the long run.
It is good for your mental health
Not having any time to recharge and refocus can put a serious strain on our mental stability. If you find your stressed out, anxious, or depressed, you need to take a serious break mama!
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Now sometimes, not getting some much needed alone time can lead to resentment towards your children. We don’t want any of that!
I find that when I take some time away from my son, I can’t wait to get back and give him a big hug, but when I am with him just a little too long, I can start nitpicking and take things out on him sometimes.
I am a human being, and it does happen. So having that break from each other really helps keep a strong relationship with your children in the long run.
What your partner can do to help
These are just some ideas of what your partner can do to help if you have one of those around 😉
- Take the kids to the park, water park, beach if you have one, or out for food.
- Take the kids to his families house while you stay home and rest.
- Cook dinner at night.
- Go for a walk with the kids.
- Give them a bath.
- Be on diaper duty for the whole day.
- get a babysitter so you guys can have a date night.
- Bring you breakfast in bed.
- Do the dishes.
- A load of laundry.
Even little mundane tasks can help our so much to just give you those tiny breaks in between.
How to get a break!
Come up with a plan of action
Talk it over with your partner, or close friends and family members that you are going to start taking time for yourself. Set an actual date/routine and stick to it. Make sure everyone is on the same page so you can feel good about leaving the kiddos for a few hours a week.
Look for appropriate times in between
Is your kid watching an awesome movie and glued to the TV? If he or she is safe and old enough, take a step outside. Enjoy the fresh air and read a book, listen to music, or a podcast.
Maybe your kids go to an extracurricular activity, do yourself a favor and let the instructors take over (if allowed) and go wander around the plaza and relax until their session is up.
Take a relaxing bath while your baby naps. Heck, try to nap yourself.
I know this is always said so many times, “sleep when the baby sleeps”.
Hey, you don’t have to sleep, but a nice quiet time lounging in bed and not doing chores while baby sleeps is a good time to catch up on some alone time.
Take advantage of personal appointments
When you leave the kids with dad or family to go run some much-needed errands, take advantage of the opportunity.
You can go get a massage afterward or in between errands…
Better yet, a pedicure sounds fantastic!
Anything to squeeze a little relaxation into the day, I would go for it!
Hire a babysitter/nanny
If you don’t have much family to help you, like my partner and I, then you can always go to Urban Sitter or Nannies4Hire and look for a babysitter or nanny that will suit your families needs.
It may be just the thing you need to have a much-needed mom (& dad) break!
Those websites are great because they do intensive background checks and screen all there babysitters/nannies so you do not have to worry.
Just filter your search by whatever criteria you are comfortable with and study each contestant.
Once you find the babysitter/nanny you are interested in you can contact them and meet in person first.
You can check out Urban Sitter Here.
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What tips and advice do you have for getting a break as a stay at home mom?
I know there are so many of us out there who don’t want to admit we need time away from our kids. I encourage you to take time for yourself mama. It will not only benefit you but everyone around you as well.
Take care of yourself and let me know if you have any other tips and tricks for getting some you time.
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